Managing Life From Day to Day
Every day seems to be a challenge. Not necessarily bad, but just a challenge. As we age and continue on our life journey, it becomes apparent just how difficult it is to manage our lives on a daily basis.
How to get motivated: 4 NLP strategies that work
1. The reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way
2. The general desire or willingness of someone to do something
3. *My own definition: the art of getting off your butt and getting stuff done
Because here is the thing: you may have a burning desire to do something, you may have the best will in the world, you may even know all the reasons why you should do it… but if you haven\’t done it yet, don\’t be surprised.
Getting motivated doesn\’t happen by coincidence or by miracle. Motivation is not something that some people have and others don\’t either. It is something we all do, consciously or unconsciously, everyday!
Motivation is not something you have or don\’t have; it is something you do
Take training, for example, notice I say training, and not exercising! We want to do it, we know it is good for us, we know it is going to make us look better and feel better… but after a hard day\’s work, when tiredness sets in, who would blame us for wanting to slouch on the couch and watch some TV while eating our favourite treat?
Well, think of taking a shower for a moment. Most of us do it every day. We don\’t wait until we are all stinky to clean ourselves. We do it because it is the right thing to do; it is time to take a shower.
We are able to do this because we have built up this good habit over the years through repetition. We do it at the same time, in the same place, following the same routine, which is so ingrained in our unconscious that we are barely aware of the process.
If you want to get to the point where your training routine goes as smoothly as your shower routine, start following the following NLP rules:
1# IDENTIFY EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT TO DO
Answer these questions:
What do you want specifically? When do you want it by? Where? With whom? What for? What will happen if you achieve that? What if you don\’t achieve that? Is it under your control? Is it worth it?
You see, when setting up goals, a lot of people do it wrong. They state what they want to have, not what they want to do; things like ‘I want to be slim’, ‘I want a six pack’ or ‘I want to have toned arms’… But, what do you want to do? Because it is as a result of you doing what you need to do that you will get to have what you want.
Your objective needs to be stated in a way that your brain understands it. And just like your computer, your brain needs 3 things: affirmative statements that are direct and very specific.
If you are just thinking it then it is not an objective, it is just a thought. So, put pen to paper and write your answers to the questions above.
If you don\’t know what you want, how will you know when you\’ve got there?
2# MAKE A PLAN
Again, if you don\’t have a plan, all you have is a lovely thought. I suggest you get yourself a diary, an excel sheet, a calendar, whatever works for you, and devise your personal strategy. A strategy to suit your lifestyle, your working schedule, etc…
Keeping the end result in mind, what is the first step you need to take in order for you to do what you need to do? And after that? What\’s next? Do you have all the resources you need (resources are materials, books, money, people…), or do you need help?
If it\’s going to take you 12 weeks to get a six pack, set a date and work backwards from there. If you want to lose a stone in 3 weeks, do the same. Break your objective into smaller, more achievable chunks, so that this week you know exactly what you are doing with regards to training and nutrition, and you can focus on just that. As I tell my clients, it\’s one week at a time, one day at a time.
You see, now you have more than just a nice thought; now you have a plan of action. And believe it or not, this is what most people lack. It\’s hard to get motivated if you don\’t know what you want to get motivated for!
And what are you going to do when you are tired, sad, in a mad mood, frustrated…? You must put strategies in place, so when that happens, and it will, you know exactly what to do. You have to become a bit of a ninja!
3# FIND OUT WHAT FIRES YOU UP
There are a lot of things that we need to or should do, but that doesn\’t mean we do them. So I want you to try on the following sentences, simply add what you want to be able to do at the end.
For example, if you want to go to the gym every day at 6pm for an hour, try these on. Say them out loud:
I should go to the gym – I need to go to the gym – I have to go to the gym – I\’d better go to the gym –
I could go to the gym – I can go to the gym – I will go to the gym – I\’m going to the gym
Do this a few times and notice which one creates the strongest feeling within you, like you want to go do it. You\’ve just unlocked your personal motivational language. Make sure you use it from now on!
4# IMAGINE YOURSELF SUCCEEDING
One of the main functions of the brain is to prove itself right. So, whatever you focus on is magnified, as the brain thinks it is an objective of yours. Also, the brain doesn\’t know the difference between a vividly imagined memory and reality. This is why if you want to do something, it\’s vital you imagine yourself doing it like this (read this NLP resource fully before you do it):
Think of yourself doing the thing you want to do, training in the gym, or whatever. When you think about it you may notice the thought to be at a certain distance from you, a certain size, and in a certain place. Just make sure you see yourself in it, looking happy, positive and really enjoying what you are doing.
Now, imagine the thought getting bigger and bigger until it\’s almost panoramic. Make sure it\’s big, bold and colourful, maybe add some sound to it, and notice how good you feel.
Now, imagine you can float outside of your body and into yourself in the image, so you can see through your eyes, hear through your ears and feel how good it feels to be doing what you are doing and loving it too! Intensify everything even more, so the colours are brighter, the sounds louder and the feelings stronger.
Now, tell yourself in your most motivating voice ‘Go For It!’
Now, take a deep breath through the nose and magnify the feelings so you feel even more motivated!
Repeat 3 times, first sitting down, and then standing up, and notice how you feel even more motivated!
It\’s vital that you build a propulsion system that makes you feel good and look forward to doing the things you want to do, so that you want to do them more and more. This is how you get to build up new more useful habits to last you a lifetime.
I\’ve just shared 4 motivational strategies with you, that when you use them, they will help you get more stuff done and achieve more, faster. They can be applied in any area of your life. These strategies have helped transform some of my clients from couch potatoes into fitness freaks, so good luck to you!
About the Author
Anna Aparicio is regarded as Ireland\’s top female NLP/Hypnosis Life Coach. A Self-esteem and Confidence Expert, she has helped hundreds of women all around the world feel empowered, super confident, and lead happier more succesful lives. With a unique blend of Neuro-linguistic Programming, cutting edge personal development tools, and a contagious sense of humour and zest for life, Anna is renowned for getting results fast. Now you can get her free report WHY YOU\’LL NEVER GET WHAT YOU WANT UNLESS YOU DO THIS at http://www.delite.ie
Think About It
Author: Tammie-Maria Allen
The reality of all that you are begins with a thought. That thought be it positive or negative comes to life when it becomes a concentrated focal point. Saturate your mind with goodness, all the goodness you hope to obtain in this your lifetime. Learn to be successful by commanding your thoughts to replay your blessings, as you forgive those who have harmed you along the way. Never underestimate the continual messages that bombard your mind each day.
The music that you listen to provides more than a lyrical beat. It can elevate your creative greatness or suggest naughty vice and defeat. The conversations that you engage in showers your mind and waters your soul. Rage, debate and downright hate often screams from television, radio and social media. This negative stimuli can fill you with stress, convincing you the entire planet is a mess. Too much of a bad thing will never make you feel good. You were not designed to thrive under hopelessness and fear. Take time to destress so your thoughts can be positive and clear. Encourage yourself frequently and take moments to be thankful throughout the day. Always remember to use your personal power in an constructive and positive way.
Utilize the power of thought to embrace your uniqueness and celebrate your originality. Refuse to dine on envy or drink the bitter poison of jealousy. Feast upon the beauty of celebrating all that you have become and all that you are destine to be. Develop a heart of love, to vanquish all emotions that are born from the deep grave of hate. The kingdom of you demands that you rule over your thought patterns and reign over all of your actions. Take full responsibility and continue to strive onward, anticipating awesome possibilities.
Yes, you were designed for greatness. Greatness is woven in your soul, and as you walk in love and understanding your entire being becomes perfected and is made whole. Wear your spirituality like a brilliant garment of hope, for the entire world to see. You must realize by now that your are simply more than a body dressed in humanity.
You are encouragement to the dishearten and strength to the weak. You are light to those moaning in darkness and friendship to all who seek. Feed your thoughts on positive fuel with great consistency. You were designed to be a balm of healing in a world plagued with negativity.
About the Author
Tammie-Maria Allen is a passionate artist,writer,model and musician,She is also a military veteran,multifaceted business woman and certified personal trainer.
point of contact www.buffedstuff.com